From Rude Child To Respectful Child
I used to be so eager to hear my baby speak and when he started blabbering my joy knew no bounds. Then came the phase when we used to get exhausted (but enjoyed) by his continuous chattering.
The charm of his speech soon vanished when his answers became interrogative, the tone turned impolite. His words started hurting and and his comments mean.
It was this phase when he got exposed to many kids from diverse upbringing.
He was absorbing everything around him not knowing what was right and what was not.
I definitely did not want him to continue this rudeness.
Blatantly criticizing or chiding him was not the solution.
You cannot teach child to be respectful by any one single method. There may be various reasons for kids to be rude. Your approach changes according to the situation. So first you should know the reason.
Reasons for being rude:
1. When elders or people around him are rude.
If its you who is being rude either with him or with any other family member or maid, its time you ought to change yourself because you are portraying wrong example.
Start treating your kid and other people with respect. Kids pick even the slightest of gestures from your face so be sincere.
If its from other sources which is out of your influence, you need to teach him how to react. Again they learn seeing you behave with rude people. Sometimes they may come up with complaints when you can advice them on. But if you keep on advising it may fall on deaf ears. When kids see you being kind they in turn will be kind.
2. When they cannot manage their emotions.
Your kids may be tired and exhausted and they may just need some rest. At such times they might seem rude. Just take things according to their mood and help them relax.
If they are angry over some thing or if they hate any thing help them understand that feeling.
If they are sick or have pain in some part of the body or an injury and are they need soothing at such times.
3.When they cannot verbalize their thoughts.
When your kid is trying to tell you something and is falling short of words, or is not able to speak out his thoughts, he may seem to be rude. Help him express his thoughts in words. Also teach him the right way to use words.
4. When they are scared or hesitant.
When your kid is scared or hesitant and you see him getting defensive, he may opt to be rude. At such times teach him to be assertive in his speech instead of being sarcastic. he may not even know the difference. But teach him to be speak out assertively, calmly if he doesn't like anything.
5. When he is not treated well.
This is the most important thing. Let him know you love him. Let him know you care for him. Respect his views, and ideas. Encourage him to be kind and loving with his siblings, pets and friends.
6. When he is over pampered.
Do not allow him to get over confident, head strong. If he is over-pampered, and unruly he may look down upon others.
Help improve his attitude right from now.
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I definitely did not want him to continue this rudeness.
Blatantly criticizing or chiding him was not the solution.
You cannot teach child to be respectful by any one single method. There may be various reasons for kids to be rude. Your approach changes according to the situation. So first you should know the reason.
Reasons for being rude:
1. When elders or people around him are rude.
If its you who is being rude either with him or with any other family member or maid, its time you ought to change yourself because you are portraying wrong example.
Start treating your kid and other people with respect. Kids pick even the slightest of gestures from your face so be sincere.
If its from other sources which is out of your influence, you need to teach him how to react. Again they learn seeing you behave with rude people. Sometimes they may come up with complaints when you can advice them on. But if you keep on advising it may fall on deaf ears. When kids see you being kind they in turn will be kind.
2. When they cannot manage their emotions.
Your kids may be tired and exhausted and they may just need some rest. At such times they might seem rude. Just take things according to their mood and help them relax.
If they are angry over some thing or if they hate any thing help them understand that feeling.
If they are sick or have pain in some part of the body or an injury and are they need soothing at such times.
3.When they cannot verbalize their thoughts.
When your kid is trying to tell you something and is falling short of words, or is not able to speak out his thoughts, he may seem to be rude. Help him express his thoughts in words. Also teach him the right way to use words.
4. When they are scared or hesitant.
When your kid is scared or hesitant and you see him getting defensive, he may opt to be rude. At such times teach him to be assertive in his speech instead of being sarcastic. he may not even know the difference. But teach him to be speak out assertively, calmly if he doesn't like anything.
5. When he is not treated well.
This is the most important thing. Let him know you love him. Let him know you care for him. Respect his views, and ideas. Encourage him to be kind and loving with his siblings, pets and friends.
6. When he is over pampered.
Do not allow him to get over confident, head strong. If he is over-pampered, and unruly he may look down upon others.
Help improve his attitude right from now.
More To Read
Does Your Kid Hate To Write?
Correct Your Child's Posture.
Making Your Toddler Learn.
Reduce your Kid's Screen Time.
Teach Kids Life Skills : Cooking
Tongue Twisters: Importance in speech development
Image source: Google images
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